I had a long heart felt chat with a 'female' friend of mine over bbm yesterday, the topic we had was after a post we spotted on facebook which read
By all means ladies please be yourselve's how you pick your 'men' is entirely up to you, only you can determine what makes you happy, whether how your preferences in the selection process make you seem like a 'bad girl' or not thats an entirely different story.
Girl: See now that's someone u should be running from3-|
Nt every guy chooses a gal coz of her looks people are individuals and we all look for different things that might or might nt make us nasty people
Girl: True... Even so, no one wants an ugly girl, n no one wants a broke or stingy guy....even with those different things u look for: if 2 gals (one better looking than the other) both have them- you will pick the better looking. Jus like with with females: if 2 guys (one financially stable and other broke) have what u want a guy- u will pick the stable.....
I guess its a matter of preference
People hav different reasoning and we are all unique no 1 person is alike the other and we all dnt want the same things in life we want what we want and do wt we do because in our eyes its right it may look different to the next person
Girl: True, even so...in our uniqueness there dominant common factors, n money n beauty are a few...no one can argue that.
Mmm yes but let's not incline to present or hold a partial perspective at the expense of equally valid alternatives
Because the dominant factor is "and this is going on my blog post" happiness thts the dominant factor and how you go about acquiring that would reflect in what kind of person u are, humble, good, bad, holy etc
Girl: Lol! Either way vusani! U want to be happy with someone beautiful- myt not be thee most beautiful! But u want her beautiful...
Beautiful in your eyes vivien, sum1 can be beautiful to u and ugly to the next
Girl: Yeah! But u want her beautiful!
Girl: Stop fyting it.... U want ur gal beautiful
Girl: She ur gal, so obviously u chose her with ur idea of beauty...
Lol lol no u dnt knw what I want, I want a gal who can be true to me! A gal I can relate to! Etc not how beautiful she is that's irrelevant
Girl: Stop lying to yourself>:/... U want a gal with all of that! And would love her to be beautiful with all of that...either beauty is there!
Girl: And before u can know if u can relate to that girl...your door way to finding that is her physical appearance...so her beauty to u is a factor...
Girl: U don't know how many "not beautiful gals" in eyes...u have passed and not even bothered to give those gals a chance, to find out if they perfect for you or not...
What ur doing is looking beyond reason and ignoring the basis of the general factor and with that your effectively creating a stereotype of how one chooses a relationship
More so I believe your associating the general of human kind with ur select group of individuals
Girl: Sorry if it hurts you... that a girls physical appearance is a factor...its the truth nunu
Girl: Yes after years, that beauty myt not be a big deal and a factor, with u being with her....but at first it was one of them:)
I dnt think u are understanding what I'm saying here, I'm looking at a broader spectrum nt the the preferences of a click
Girl: Its my opinion, Beauty matters to everyone...
"Ur opinion" ok ur entitled to that :)
This was a very enlightening conversation I had with my friend, it broadened an understanding of the different individuals we come accross and how we perceive them/each other, to one person being primarily interested in a relationship for material benefits might be justifiable for what ever cognitive reason they believe to be completely valid and with that they might aswell try to bring comparisons which might or might not be valid for that situation.